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Better than Botox

10 Jul

Phyllis DillerPhyllis Diller’s self-deprecating humor (when she kept it clean) often made me (Dawn) laugh. She once said,  “My photographs don’t do me justice ~ they just look like me.” I’ve used that line myself on occasion.

Arlene Pellicane wrote about Diller in one chapter of her book, 31 Days to a Younger You. [Note: You can get Arlene’s book at love-wise under “Books/Products by Other Authors.”]

Discussing the topic of “Plastic Surgery, Botox, and Other Modern Marvels,” Pellicane began by sharing some of Diller’s humor, noting that the comedian was never one to conceal her facelifts.

“Her one liners about plastic surgery brought her fame and endeared her to women and plastic surgeons alike,” Arlene said.

“Punch lines like:

  • The only parts left of my original body are my elbows.
  • My Playtex Living bra died … of starvation.
  • I never made Who’s Who, but I’m featured in What’s That?” (1) 

I (Dawn) have found that some  women have unrealistic expectations about plastic surgery and other external “miracle” procedures to procure “beauty.” Those who believe all the advertising and hype about beauty fail to understand that physical beauty won’t last, but true inner beauty is both attractive and eternal.

Arlene doesn’t condemn botox or other procedures, but she does offer words of wisdom.

“Having cosmetic surgery will change your appearance, but it won’t change your life,” she Women with Inner Beatysaid. “Friend, if you’re not enough without plastic surgery, you’ll never be enough with it. You were lovingly and beautifully created by God. If you feel insecure about your appearance, the true transformation of beauty will first happen in your mind and heart, not on the surgery table.” (2)

I am tempted to stop right there. Arlene said it all. We are awed by women with true, inner beauty. Refined by their Creator and Heavenly Father, joy radiates from their lives.

I’m just going to add some scriptures to encourage you, if you struggle with your appearance. (All are in the English Standard Version.)

  • …For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.” (1 Samuel 16:7b)
  • I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. (Psalm 139:14)
  • Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.  (Proverbs 31:30)
  • So we do not lose heart. Though our outer self is wasting away, our inner self is being renewed day by day. (2 Corinthians 4:16)
  • Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.  (1 Peter 3:3-4)

Arlene concludes her book with these words, “Looking and feeling younger is about accepting your appearance, embracing your God-given age, and doing your best to improve your assets. Hear the voice of your heavenly Father as He looks at you, His daughter, and proclaims, ‘Good.’ … You are a luminous work in progress.”

Luminous. I like that.

We are told to let our “light” shine so others will glorify the Father in heaven (Matthew 5:16). So, shine, Friend … you are BEAUTIFUL!

(1) Arlene Pellicane, 31 Days to a Younger You: No surgery, No Diets, No Kidding (Harvest House Publishers, 2010), p. 97

(2) ibid, p. 98

Do You Have Beautiful Feet?

8 Jul

Bare Feet and SandMy (Dawn’s) friend and former employer, Lamar Keener at the Christian Examiner, has such wit. I often laugh at his puns on Facebook. A few days ago, he decided it was “time for another round of pun fun.”

Lamar wrote on Facebook, “In a Podiatrist’s office: ‘Time wounds all heels.”

A man responded to his post, “Did you hear about why the podiatrist would not see the guy with a prosthetic leg? He was afraid the patient wouldn’t be able to foot the bill.”

Lamar then wrote, “Is that going to be the sole response?” And others wrote:

  • “I’m getting a kick out of these posts!”
  • “Won’t take much to spur me on. Of course, that’s just my obunion.”
  • “I know I’m being a little callus here. Some might even say corn-e.
  • “The over-arching purpose of this discussion seems to have caught me flat-footed.”

And a final comment:  “Is this ingroan humor?”

I’ve probably heard hundreds of complaints about feet ~ I don’t know too many people who like them. I’ve always thought, “If I didn’t have my feet, I’d miss them.” As I watch or hear stories about returning military heroes who’ve stepped on mines and lost their feet ~ sometimes entire legs ~ I am indeed grateful that I have both of mine.

As I get older, it’s harder to walk sometimes. We all get aches and pains in our feet, sometimes as a result of improperly fitting shoes, high heels, or just regular “use and abuse.”

In Southern California, some people pretty much wear sandals all year, but I’m beginning to see more and more feet these days as the weather warms. Most people think their feet are ugly. Women try to pretty them up with nail polish or even little “jewels.”

I’ve decided that my feet will never be beautiful … except perhaps Continue reading

‘Hair-splitting’ Laughter

22 May

We love this comparison between women’s and men’s haircuts. Here’s the conversation regarding women’s haircuts:

Two women talkingWoman #1: Oh! You got a haircut! That’s so cute!

Woman #2: Do you think so? I wasn’t sure when she gave me the mirror. I mean, you don’t think it’s too fluffy looking?

Woman #1: Oh, no! It’s perfect. I’d love to get my hair cut like that, but I think my face is too wide. I’m pretty much stuck with this stuff, I think.

Woman #2: Are you serious? I think your face is adorable. And you could easily get one of those layer cuts – that would look so cute, I think. I was actually going to do that except that I was afraid it would accent my long neck.

Woman #1: Oh, that’s funny! I would love to have your neck! Anything to take attention away from this two-by-four I have for a shoulder line.

Woman #2: Are you kidding? I know girls that would love to have your shoulders. Everything drapes so well on you. I mean, look at my arms – see how short they are? If I had your shoulders I could get clothes to fit me so much easier.

And now, the conversation between men about their hair cuts:

Man #1: Haircut?

Man #2: Yeah. *

Don’t you just love the differences between men and women? Don’t get us started! [But if you want some clues, read the Farrels’ best-seller, Men Are Like Waffles, Women Are Like Spaghetti! ~ available at love-wise!]

Our friend, Carol Murphy, couldn’t resist adding this great line about hair:

Question: “What does a blonde call a bottle of black hair dye?”

Answer:  “Artificial Intelligence.”  LOL!

We invited Carol to share an experience about hair (from her travels) that also taught her a lesson. Carol wrote:

Travel is one of my greatest loves.  I find it fascinating to experience the sights, smells, and sounds of a foreign land, so I was thrilled when my work required a trip to China It was my first time to the Far East and I knew, as a blue-eyed blonde, I would be an anomaly in a nation of shiny black hair and dark eyes, particularly in the remote villages I would be visiting.

One day at a bustling street market, I noticed a tiny, bent, old lady intently staring at me.  She slowly but deliberately walked up, reached out and stroked my shoulder-length hair.  A look of  surprise overtook her lined face, and she started speaking with great animation to several other old women standing nearby.

Thinking she must be complimenting my flaxen tresses to her friends, I smiled and graciously replied “Xie xie” (thank you).

Turning to my Chinese-speaking friend, I asked what the sweet lady had said.  With a sheepish grin on her face, my friend answered “The woman said, ‘What a surprise.  The faded hair looks like DEAD GRASS, but it doesn’t feel like it!’” 

My friend and I burst into laughter, and when the old lady realized I wasn’t insulted by her comment, she giggled along with us.  That interaction was one of my most favorite moments of my whole trip.

How often do we make assumptions about someone simply because their looks are foreign to us?  I know I have been guilty of using a person’s looks as either a positive or a negative indicator of their character.  But as we all know, a well put-together person doesn’t always house a gentle, caring soul, nor does a rough exterior indicate a hardened spirit.  

God looks at his people with physical blinders on and he calls us to do the same.  In 1 Samuel 16:6-8, “The LORD said to Samuel, ‘Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The LORD does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.’” 

Tomorrow I’m going to get up, put on my blinders, and see how many beautiful hearts I can discover! 

Carol MurphyCarol is currently developing a support program for people going through Chemotherapy and is also writing a book about her journey with Breast Cancer. 

She lives in north San Diego county with her husband Pat and 13-year-old son, Riley.


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